Unless you live in a hella progressive area, it is kind of hard. I put "behind" in quotes, because there is really is no "set time" you have to be in a relationship, and virginity is a social construct so I am in a very similar boat. I absolutely love the idea of dating, having sex, and falling in love but right now is just not the time for me. It says a lot about character. So just do you! Do what makes YOU feel right. It takes time.
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If you ever want someone to talk to, we can DM :. I didn't come out until I was 26 and I had been struggling it to such a point that I hadn't been in a single relationship until that year and therefore was a virgin. The right person will simply be happy that you finally feel that you are able to share yourself with them :.
If you haven't dated yet, it'll just be your first time whenever you do. I don't understand the idea of inexperience being wrong in any way. You're allowed to take your time if that's what you want. Definitely don't find it shady, I find it admirable. It shows maturity and a lot of respect for yourself to want to wait until you're with someone who you love and trust fully.
I find it really hard at 23 as a transwoman, most other folks I know who want relationships have had several or long lasting ones by now. I've always wanted to have a relationship but like two people have expressed any interest in me my entire life. I'm finally at a point where I'm confident in my appearance but I'm still so neurotic about the whole affair as my lack of experience just seems to stack up against me.
Everyone has their own life story of why they evolve the way they do. When you meet the right person they won't care about the circumstances of your history, they will care about you. Don't worry, most people will value your integrity.
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You definitely wouldn't be right for me, but more for your reasons about why you are not in a relationship. We don't have the same values. That's okay, but I certainly would get along better with somebody who did value having some sexual and communication experience over waiting for some special time to arrive to have them.
So it's OK. You and I have such different values that we shouldn't date. You may find that you have different values than many lesbians but then they would not be right for you. This was basically my GF but she was We have a pretty solid relationship but we have been dating about a year. So happy for you. And yep there no red flags for me just don't play games with a girl.
It hurts. Lord I hope not, because that's me right there. I've had a few relationships, but I don't want to have sex with someone until I know that I love, trust, and respect them and that they love, trust, and respect me. I prefer when someone has experience in relationships. I even find that me not having had relationships in high school definitely put me at a disadvantage when having my first relationship as a young adult I had no idea what I was doing.
You know what you want.
Not at all. First I think it's harder to find a relationship was a woman who likes women so for a lot of us it would be pretty normal not have this experience.
I do think you're going to have a tougher time if you're planning on waiting to have sex until you're married. I don't mean to disparage your choice, only to say that it's increasingly rare. Also to be entirely honest, I probably wouldn't date someone who wanted to be married before having sex. I understand wanting to be in a committed relationship before having sex but marriage is a big decision to make without knowing if you and the other person are sexually compatible. I just think of the worst case scenario: committing to someone and then not having any kind of enjoyable sex life for the rest of your life.
Again, I say this with utmost respect and only in the interest of sharing an opinion that you may encounter along the way. Although I have considered marrying someone I don't have a sexual relationship with in order to have a functional relationship to keep a household together and raise kids together, then we both explore our sexuality outside of the primary relationship I don't personally. I think that everyone goes about their lives at different paces, and you need to do what you're most comfortable with.
If you want to hold off on sex with someone until you've found someone you are comfortable having that experience with, that's fine, too? There's a lot of pressure to jump into relationships and sex for the sake of finding yourself and gaining experience, but it's not for everyone and that's totally okay! The right partner is someone who will not look at your relationship history or lack thereof with scrutiny, and will instead just be happy to be with you.
You'll at mos get shallow comments about it, and not from the people that'd be interested in dating you regardless. Kudos for making this post! I don't find it shady, but that's probably because I feel like I'm partially in your boat. For me, I've struggled with whether or not I'm asexual or just shying away from embracing the lesbian label due to how I would be? That being said, from my point of view, the other person's history matters to me, sure, but the why would be more important than the what. I get focusing on career and you more than looking to share with someone else.
At this point, at 30, I'd much rather find someone who knows themselves and what they're looking for than any sort of fling. But, based on mainstream media, that seems to put me in a very tiny minority. I'm 26 and in that boat. I want to find someone to share my life with, you know. I'm not intressted in anything casual. Plus i;ve been focusing on other shit for so long and never quite found a partner. I have a friend who was 38 before she had her 1st lesbian sex. It was me. Don't wait that long and I agree with the woman from Germany though I am in America.
Regardless, if a woman has a problem with a first timer I'll knock them to hell if I find out about them lol. Do things at your own time. I personally don't think it is weird, I applaud you for taking ownership of your sexuality, life and goals instead of blindly following what society dictates we "should do. Nothing wrong with waiting to have sex! Why would you want to just "get it over with" or "do it to have done it"?
A lot of people say that about their first time- if they were young- was horrible and they wish they had waited for someone that they actually liked and were in a good place with. You'll find someone, and if they're right for you, it won't matter!
People who live in the past are red flags. I don't find it shady or suspicious, because a lot of women stay in the closet for a long time until they come out. However I personally don't really like the idea of being with a woman with no experience at that age, because I've been sort of used as a "starter girlfriend" more than once. It's rare someone stays with their first partner in the long run and I don't want to deal with that. I'm also at the point in my life where I want to be with someone who knows how to have sex with a woman. But this is also my preference. I will say though that not dating until you're in your mid 20s is a bit of a strange choice?
I'm wondering if maybe a bigger contributer to this choice is that you said it's hard to trust people. It is hard to trust people, but you can't really get into a stable or trusting relationship unless you take a risk to trust someone new. Not everyone wants to date casually just to say they have experience with women or sex. No one should have to do that either. I feel like calling her choice "strange" is very unnecessary and honestly seems like you're projecting your views onto her. Which isn't cool. The only reason I'm pointing this out is because you acknowledged that you have a preference, yet at the same time you're devaluing hers.
There's one factor in this decision and it should be her own comfort level, not what other people think. But if I hadn't seen other of the OP's posts in the past that talk about quite frankly, her feelings of self-hatred, depression and fear of being an out lesbian, I probably wouldn't have said that.
Considering that, I thought that she may have been saying that because like she said, she is afraid to trust people and has a lot of bad feelings about being gay in general. So I'm not so much devaluing her choices as putting them into question because there's a difference between truly thinking "I want to fully focus on my education" and using that as an excuse to not date because you're not feeling good about yourself. From what I can tell she's trying to give herself time to sort out her feelings, get her life in order, before she gets into a relationship with someone.
That alone strikes me as someone who's being responsible , not making an excuse. I don't think it's right to pressure or shame other people into something they are clearly uncomfortable doing. While today's dating culture may lean toward casual encounters and sex, that is very obviously not what she wants to engage in. She's the only one who knows if it's the right time to make herself and her body vulnerable to another person.
It doesn't sit well with me that you're questioning that. I'm sorry but where exactly was I shaming her? I admitted "Strange" was a poor word choice but I didn't tell her it was wrong to do this or she shouldn't? You're also taking way more offense than she is. God, yes she can do whatever the hell she wants but again, considering she's frequently said things like she doesn't think she could be out or find someone I thought maybe her saying that was feeling bad about herself and she literally said she struggles to trust people. Just let it go. Yeah, she can do whatever she wants but this is also a really short post that gives us virtually no other information as to why she feels this way.
So invite their first relationship, naturally, difficulties they have not yet had to share with another person are going to come up. Well, I'm a year-old bisexual who has slept with a bunch of men and only a handful of women. It's been a deterrent. Alcohol eases anxiety, but it diminishes our ability to reach orgasm. Leave it alone or go easy and stick with one drink. Many STDs can be prevented just by using the right tools like a dental dam. And take the lead by getting tested yourself. Sex toys are great but not for your first time. Save toys for later. Toys are great. Ask her what she likes and what she wants.
It will make you more nervous and tense, which will inhibit your ability to really enjoy the whole experience.
Slow yourself down and really enjoy the experience. Slowly take her clothes off. Enjoy every inch of her body slowly and deliberately enjoy the fact woman-to-woman sex lasts a lot longer on average than heterosexual sex. Yes, women rock when it comes to long-lasting and great sex. Take the time to enjoy every inch of her body — her neck and ears, shoulders and arms, chest and breasts, belly and butt, thighs, calves and feet.
Yes, go for luxuriating in her feminine body. Finally, have realistic expectations. You may orgasm or you may not. The goal is to get close and get physical. Gay girls, what was your first lesbian sexual experience like? What tips can you offer the lesbian newbies out there?