These positive emotions feel good. That's especially true when we feel a negative emotion too often, too strongly, or we dwell on it too long. Negative emotions are impossible to avoid, though.
Everyone feels them from time to time. They may be difficult, but we can learn to handle them.
Learning to notice and identify your feelings takes practice. In addition to focusing on your feelings, check in with your body, too. You may feel body sensations with certain emotions — perhaps your face gets hot, for example, or your muscles tense.
Once you've processed what you're feeling, you can decide if you need to express your emotion. Throwing a vase isn't anger; it's an angry response.
The boiling feeling inside your body that precedes the vase throwing is the anger. As someone who is highly sensitive, you must learn how to make space between the emotion in your body and the action you take in response to that bodily feeling. When you learn how to separate your emotions from your emotional responses you'll have the freedom to talk to your friends about how they've hurt you in a calm, cool-headed manner. If they continue to upset you even after you've done all this hard work on yourself and you've tried to speak to them constructively, it's time to decide if you can forgive them and if you want them in your life.
Like they say, you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends. If your friends don't appreciate the happy, emotionally healthy new you, they don't deserve you. If you're interested in learning more about how to mindfully explore your emotions, please visit my website and sign up for my newsletter.
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Also, don't obsess about your feelings. Just like "the power to tax," is the power to destroy, so obession and constant mental replay, bring by the pain. The only connection you have with a prior event, is thinking about it. No thoughts about the past, no pain from the past.
“Even when in the midst of disturbance, the stillness of the mind can offer sanctuary.” ~Stephen Richards. One night my four-year-old daughter woke up crying. It took me many years to grasp the concept that all emotions stem from thought. As a young woman with low self-esteem, I didn't realize that my negative self-talk .
When you fully understand the principle, you won't spend a moment crying over spilt milk. How would you, as a female deal with a male colleague who constantly attacks your integrity due to his insecurity? Attitude is everything as long as he has no means to affect you economically.
There are always SOME options. Live in day tight compartments. If he is a bully and he sees he has no affect on you, he'll pick some other victim. Andrea Brandt, Ph. D, is a marriage and family therapist in Santa Monica, California. She brings over 35 years of experience to her roles in family therapy, couples counseling, group therapy and anger-management classes.
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